Introvert and extrovert are fundamentally different psychological types of personality. In psychology, three psychotypes are distinguished: introvert, extrovert, ambivert. Introvert and extrovert refer to two very opposing personality types. An extrovert is a type of personality whose behavior patterns are directed at the people around them, actively interacting with them. An introvert is a type of personality whose actions are directed inward, that is, towards oneself. Ambivert is a person who combines all the qualities of an extrovert and an introvert.
The definition of extrovert and introvert consists of the following characteristics. Extroverts prefer to communicate with different people, try to attract the attention of others, so they often participate in public speeches, contests, and crowded events.
Introverts are not so focused on communication and various activities, they are more comfortable spending time alone with inner reflections, anxieties or feelings. Often introverts are creative people, they also prefer to observe any social processes from the outside, but not take part in them.
For an extrovert, for a comfortable state, it is necessary to have people near him, whose help he can also use in a collective matter. An introvert, on the other hand, is alien to everything that involves interaction with others, he is comfortable working alone, with his own strength, not expecting or accepting help from anyone.
The concept of introvert and extrovert is one of the basic characteristics of a person, since they determine the direction of behavior, the main motives and the nature of the relationship.
Introvert and extrovert, who is this
The definition of extrovert and introvert lies in the characteristics of their energy. Since all vital processes are energy-intensive, the way to compensate for this energy is a very important process for every person. Usually, recuperation occurs at the expense of food and sleep, only certain individuals need additional resources. So, extroverts need society, from communication they receive an additional charge of positive and strength. Without active interaction with other personalities, extroverts begin to "wither" before our eyes. Introverts have enough sleep, they can go through the day without communication with anyone. From this definition it follows that the extrovert is to some extent an "energy vampire." An "energy vampire" is a person in need of energy recharge. Replenishment of his reserves occurs by absorbing the energy of other people, doing this in a non-constructive way.
Thus, the energy vampire is an extrovert who gains energy through inflicting pain on other people (insulting, threatening, blackmailing, criticizing).
But if you declare that the energy vampire is an extrovert, then you first need to indicate that not all extroverts are extroverts. Most extroverts who receive energy from people do it through good, benefiting others.
To understand how an extrovert differs from an introvert, you need to observe a person's behavior. The whole essence of the personality is best expressed in behavior.
Often, almost all people in friendly companies tell jokes to each other from time to time, but there is such a person in the company, whose jokes always seem the most ridiculous, funny and funny, and everyone is ready to listen to this person for hours. This person is without a doubt, an extrovert who brings pleasure to other people and himself enjoys it.
In every office, every company or factory, workers can be found extroverted and introverted. And each of them, both extrovert and introvert, has advantages and disadvantages. For effective performance and efficiency, it is necessary that all the advantages of an extrovert and an introvert are fully utilized one hundred percent. Disadvantages, in turn, on the contrary, it is necessary to try to rework in order to turn them into advantages.
We can highlight the main advantages of an introvert in his professional activities. The introvert's propensity for individual work prevents many problems, since all responsibility for the implementation lies with him alone, and in case of any misunderstandings, then all questions will be posed to only one introvert, and he, in turn, knows well what he is doing and not on who will shove the blame.
Professionally significant advantages of the extrovert: the ease of making new contacts allows the extrovert to conclude successful deals, conduct interviews. Extroverts are so confident and sociable that it doesn't really matter to them who stands in front of them, be it an ambassador or an ordinary worker, they know their job, their work is their life.
Extroverts are sociable with friends and are equally sociable at work. Extroverts have no fear of public speaking, on the contrary, the more they see people in front of them, whose eyes are fixed on them, the more they feel self-confidence, as they are saturated with the energy of the audience.
In addition to the merits of introverts, they also have disadvantages. Because of their personality traits, introverts do not communicate well with their boss or work colleagues if they have to meet. Through too solitary work, introverts may find it even more difficult to communicate, since there is no need for communication, and at work they do not have to talk to anyone at all. Lack of business communication skills becomes a big problem for introverts, but if their job is solitary activity, then they will do it at a high level.
Although extroverts are loved and accepted by almost everyone in their circle, since they are active, sociable, want to develop, self-actualize, at first it seems difficult to identify some of their shortcomings. But just due to the fact that extroverts are too active, they are mistaken for irresponsible people, since their mood can change quite often, and this affects their performance. An extrovert in business and in personal communication, in most cases, does not worry about the comfort of the interlocutor or client. Even if a person expresses negative reactions, then the extrovert also accepts them, since this is also energy. Extroverts have a weakness in public speaking, so by getting too carried away with their performance, the extrovert can turn it into a farce.
Extrovert and introvert, you can give some recommendations, using which they can develop patterns of behavior, as in the opposite personality type.
Introverts must learn to communicate with people in such a way as to receive only a positive reaction from the interlocutor or listener. To do this, they need to gain patience and force themselves to communicate with others, especially those with whom communication should bring some success.
Introverts who do not like to communicate, but must do this, due to business or personal circumstances, can find a person among people who loves to talk a lot, then from the side of the introvert it will not be necessary to strain too much, since a chatty, especially superficial person will use the company of such " active "listener and will talk incessantly, and the introvert, in turn, will receive what he wanted - the necessary connections.
Extroverts may want to learn to control the communication process so that they can stop at the moment when they see that the other person is tired of their monologue or expression of any other negative reaction. The extrovert needs to learn to curb their emotions and put the interests of the interlocutor in a high place, and not show the dominance of their own interests.
In individual psychology, there are three types of personalities: introvert, extrovert, ambivert.
The extrovert and introvert have already been discussed above, it remains to define the type of ambivert. An ambivert is a person who combines the properties of two types, both an extrovert and an introvert. That is, an ambivert at times becomes the soul of the company, that is, an extrovert, but often he may have a desire to be alone, like an introvert. These are people who are sometimes not immediately noticed in a large company, but in a close circle they are quite sociable. Ambivert is able to speak publicly in front of people, but he may have problems making new contacts.
How to identify an introvert or extrovert
Determining whether one has a psychological type of introvert or extrovert can be done using special tests designed to determine the type of personality. Here is an example of the most frequently asked questions to determine the psychological type of an extrovert or introvert: is it comfortable for me to work alone, is it easy for me to communicate with people, especially new ones, is there a craving for public speaking or a tendency to stay in the spotlight, and other similar questions.
To understand how an extrovert differs from an introvert, you can even just watch any of their public speeches. The emotional fullness of this speech will be completely different for both the extrovert and the introvert. The extrovert will begin his speech with humor, ask the listeners how they are doing, ask some leading questions about the topic, which an introvert will never do.
The introvert begins with a measured, calm narration, gradually increasing the emotionality of the speech.
To determine how an extrovert differs from an introvert, you need to take a good look at the people around you, observe the differences in their behavior and draw conclusions about what type of person you just communicated with.
An introvert likes solitude, self-absorption, during which he dreams, fantasizes, or reason. Introverts, even if they come to a party, try to keep aloof from others, they like loneliness and calmness. Introverts can use their characteristics for professional purposes, certain life events that require a person to be focused and planned. An introvert knows well what and why he is doing, he will not make unnecessary movements, interact with the outside world, if there is no reason for this. The introvert's character is calm. He is a reasonable and balanced nature. An introvert will not make categorical hasty decisions, will think through all the options, and choose the most effective from all sides. Often this balance is bordering on indecision and slowness. In their personal lives, introverted women are home keepers, caring mothers. Introverted men are wonderful and loyal husbands, but they can often be used by manipulative wives.
Extroverts are highly active, courageous, and spontaneous. This is both their strength and weakness. Extroverted individuals strive to be leaders in everything, to be socially recognized. For them, the most important are the manifestations of recognition of their merits, rather than the real value of their actions and achievements. They never get tired of the company of people, because by communication they add energy to themselves.
Extroverts are very easy-going, proactive, and determined. Sometimes their determination borders on recklessness. They are the soul of the company, they are leaders and leaders. Using their power, they can become arrogant and selfish. On the way to achieving success, nothing will stop them, they are confident in their actions and they don't need anything else. In love relationships, extroverts always take over. Therefore, if a couple in love consists of two extroverts, then in the event of a quarrel, they will defend their innocence in front of the other, loudly sorting out the relationship.
It should be noted that there are not so many pronounced psychotypes. Often, an extrovert is simply a person who loves to talk more than others. In fact, in each person there are qualities of both types, just their manifestation is different, some features can be more revealed, others less.
For example, a person can be cheerful, cheerful, smile at everyone and always, but he has periods when he does not want to communicate with anyone, plunges into his inner world, can mask his problems with the manifestation of excessive activity and sociability. This extraversion is false. Introverts, who are so slow to react, can make a decision quickly enough at the right time and then not regret it.
Most clearly, you can observe the compatibility of an introvert and an extrovert in the relationship between a man and a woman. These opposite types are examples of fairly strong alliances. They complement each other perfectly. At the right time, they can cheer or, on the contrary, calm down their partner, and it does not matter at all which of them has which type.
Introverts quickly get bored with each other, because none of them is the first to show the initiative and they can be so inactive for a long time, plunging into themselves. A couple of extroverts often conflict, their quarrels can go on for a very long time, because none of them wants to give in, they feed on each other's energy, such a relationship requires strong nerves.
As you can see, the compatibility of an introvert and an extrovert is quite natural, although at first glance it would seem to someone that this is far from the case.
Both psychological types have both positive and negative qualities, which makes it reckless to choose which of them is better. Therefore, both introverts and extroverts must be present in life, as has already been demonstrated in the examples of couples above. Simply, each person, by virtue of understanding his personal characteristics, should be able to adapt to other people in order to ensure himself a full life, good relations with the world around him and people.
How an introvert becomes an extrovert
Surely there are people who are worried about the question: can an introvert become an extrovert. The answer is: "if you really want to ...". But it is important to understand that it will be very difficult for a person who has lived his entire conscious life as an introvert to rebuild his attitudes, worldview, and behavior.
In fact, why do this at all, if a person is comfortable being an introvert, and he feels comfortable in his body. But, if an introvert personally wants to change his worldview, reconsider his views, transform his personality, because he needs it, then he can try to change.
It is important to understand that the attempts of introverts to become an extroverted person may at first seem clumsy, give a pretense of behavior, but gradually a person will acquire new skills and abilities. This is unlikely to greatly affect his personal attitudes, but from the outside, an introvert may well seem to be an extrovert. So, can an introvert become an extrovert? Answer: partially. Here are some of the ways to become an extrovert.
The first tip for introverts is to find a "productive discomfort" zone for yourself. It means finding a state that goes beyond the usual, in which a person feels more productive and active. It is the state of such discomfort that leads to increased productivity. So, a person finds a new job and feels a certain awkwardness or discomfort, but he steps over himself and tries to work effectively.
You can also go to travel to places where the privileges of the material world are absent. Only by leaving the zone of personal comfort, by opening towards the world, an introvert can experience the feelings that an extrovert feels, enjoying the novelty.
You just have to start doing it small. For example, if an introvert was always alone in the office during lunchtime, ordering food with delivery, then he needs to go out with colleagues for lunch in a cafe once.
A useful way to change yourself is to challenge yourself, for example, once or twice a week you need to do something absolutely uncommon, something that you always wanted to do, but internal complexes did not allow. Extroverts don't feel inhibited, they succumb to inner impulses, and it doesn't matter if they regret it too much. You need to push yourself to stop succumbing to internal barriers, they need to be destroyed.
Just do not immediately make plans for Napoleon, you need to gradually enter a new state for yourself. For example, start greeting your neighbors, stop chatting with them for a minute, ask people on the street what time it is, sign up for some courses, and much more.
If an introvert decided to try some kind of event, a crowded event, he can find his own kind on it. There, often there are always people who are not doing what everyone else is doing, they do not play games, do not take part in contests, they are suspended. Perhaps they had a similar situation, maybe they came to such an event in search of new acquaintances, but are afraid to take the first step. In this case, you can be the first to take the initiative, demonstrate your unobtrusive society and start a good acquaintance.
It can be even better if you use your indecision for your own purposes. For example, to start communication by saying that you are here for the first time and do not know anyone, do not know how to start a conversation with all these strangers. Thus, due to your sincerity, you can win over a person and relieve tension. You just need to think in advance what questions you can put to other people, what exactly to talk about yourself, so that there are no awkward pauses in conversations.
You can use one proven method: just ask the person how he got to this event, what relation he has to him and what he actually does in his usual time of spending. People love to talk about themselves. Thus, it turns out that the introvert does not say much, but he established contact, the partner will remember him as a pleasant interlocutor.
If it is not possible to attend some events, then you can arrange them at home, so you can get to know people better, and the atmosphere will help relieve tension.
It is important, after the efforts spent on increasing social activity, to make yourself a restorative rest. Still, an introvert has to spend a lot of moral and physical strength to communicate with people. At home, alone, he can spend time as he is comfortable, in complete silence.
Author :Practical psychologist N.A. Vedmesh
Speaker of the Medical and Psychological Center "PsychoMed"
Everyone has heard about personality types and passed a lot of tests to determine their own psychological portrait. There are three personality types - extroverts, introverts and ambiverts. Each psychotype has different character traits, behavioral features and a different style of work. Let's figure out how to be productive if you're an extrovert, introvert, or ambiver. t.
Personality typology - a short excursion
There are various classifications of personality types. The most popular is the typology of personalities by Carl Gustav Jung. In the first half of the twentieth century, Jung proposed a classification of personality based on the direction of the internal (psychic) energy of a person. The scientist identified two main directions of energy - extraversion and introversion. The bottom line is that in a person with extraversion traits, energy is directed to the outside world, in people with introversion - to the inner one. At the same time, Jung emphasized that both types of energy are present in a person, one of which is dominant. Based on this, Carl Jung identified two types of people - extroverts and introverts.
Later, the American psychologist Edmund Conklin introduced the concept of "ambivert", designating the third type of personality. According to the scientist, ambiverts are people whose traits of extraversion or introversion are manifested in different situations. This is how three basic psychotypes developed - extrovert, introvert and ambivert.
Each type has special character traits, copes with stress and recuperates in different ways, has a different style of work. Let's take a closer look at the distinctive features of extroverts, introverts, and ambiverts.
Extroverts are thought to be sociable people who make new acquaintances easily. They are more successful in society and have leadership qualities. For the most part, this is true. People with dominant extraversion traits are open to the outside world. Extroverts get their energy from society, from communication. But they cannot be alone for a long time. This drains them psychologically.
The most characteristic character traits of extroverts:
- Extroverts turn to the outside world, adapt to it.
- Outgoing and friendly.
- They are often distinguished by assertiveness and leadership qualities.
- They love publicity, to be in the spotlight.
- Replenish energy by communicating with people.
- They do not like to be alone for a long time.
- They prefer to work in a team.
- They are proactive, with a high level of enthusiasm.
- Able to sacrifice themselves for a common goal or other people.
- Subject to suggestion.
Introverts are believed to be quiet, withdrawn people who find it difficult to make new acquaintances. It is also widely believed in society that introverts are shy people. This is not entirely true. Both extroverts and ambiverts can be shy. Shyness is not a trait of introverts, it is a fear of public condemnation, misunderstanding. This is a separate problem that can and should be dealt with. And if shyness interferes with normal social life, then you should seek help from a specialist.
Introverts are quite sociable, they just find it more difficult to open up in a society of strangers than extroverts.
Distinctive features of introverts are:
- Introverts have a small circle of friends but are very loyal to them.
- They like to spend time alone with themselves, they are prone to self-reflection.
- They prefer independent work.
- Avoid large gatherings of people (for example, meetings, meetings, etc.).
- Some introverts are slow, check every action carefully, and like to plan ahead.
- Do not openly show emotions and feelings.
- They prefer to rest and recuperate alone.
- Highly appreciates personal qualities such as honesty, sincerity, loyalty.
- In communication, they are restrained and calm.
The third personality type, which psychologist Edmund Kolkin called the flexible, adaptive personality type, is ambiverts. It is believed that most of the people on the planet are ambiverts.
Ambiverts can be said to be a universal personality type that combines the traits of extroverts and introverts. People with ambivalent traits can act like extroverts or introverts depending on the situation. For example, a person can be a proactive leader at work and a calm, reserved person in a family, or vice versa.
Distinctive features of ambiverts:
- They love society and at the same time, it is important for them to be alone.
- Easily work in a team and can work effectively on their own.
- More flexible, able to adapt to a changing environment.
- They feel comfortable in public, in large companies.
- It is important for ambiverts to maintain a balance between society and loneliness.
If you are not sure what type of personality you have, try to pass Eysenck test ... This is a classic technique for determining the psychotype on an extraverted-introverted scale. If in doubt, go test from the American psychologist Adam Grant. The test will give a clear idea of which of the three personality types you belong to.
Personality typology - a short excursion
Understanding what type of personality you are will help you adjust the work process and reduce stress factors. Efficiency in work is important for all areas and specialties. To maximize your productivity, understand yourself and adjust your workflow so that your life energy is directed in the right direction. Here are some tips for extroverts, introverts, ambiverts.
Tips for extroverts
- Be proactive. Extroverts cannot be in silence for a long time or sit for hours at a monotonous job. Create activities for yourself. For example, if there is a deafening silence in the office, try mixing it with music. You have to make a boring report, come up with a game for yourself - write a page and indulge yourself with coffee or chocolate. You can make up anything. The main thing is that the extrovert does not feel bored.
- Use your abilities. Do not be afraid and propose your candidacy for speaking at conferences, seminars, or take the initiative and organize a corporate party. Remember, don't take too much on yourself. Extroverts are not always able to realistically assess their strengths and due to excessive workload there is a possibility of "burnout".
- Have a chat hour. Communication is an energy boost for extroverts. You can set aside an hour to chat with colleagues or friends. Good conversation can give extroverts strength and energy for the rest of the day.
- Allow 20-30 minutes for analysis. It is important to analyze your actions, your effectiveness. After thinking, you will probably have more thoughts on how and what can be improved.
Tips for introverts:
- Work on your work environment. It is important that the workplace for introverts is as secluded as possible. For example, the open-space format is not a very good option for introverts. Open space, a lot of unnecessary conversations with colleagues can be tiresome. Try looking for a more secluded place to work. You can ask the management to make special rooms or divide the office space with partitions.
- Choose an individual job. If you have a choice, give preference to individual work. You will be able to independently plan your time and effort, the process of work.
- Prepare in advance for public meetings. Meetings, business meetings are a lot of stress for introverts. Try to prepare in advance for such events. Prepare a list of questions or your speech. Study the topic of the meeting and write down your thoughts on the matter. Try to be the first to speak at a meeting or negotiation.
- Do not hurry. Introverts tend to check and think carefully before making a decision. Tell management about your pace of work and try to take on those tasks that require detailed elaboration.
Tips for ambiverts:
- Stay flexible. The combination of extroverted and introverted traits makes it easy to adapt to any conditions. Ambiverts, for the most part, receive energy from those around them. Therefore, treat your surroundings carefully. Avoid nervous, negative people. Use your flexibility and enjoy intense social interaction or working alone.
- Try new approaches. Experiment and look for new ways to improve your own productivity. Use different methods depending on the situation in which you manifest the traits of extraversion or introversion. For example, you feel great discussing a project in a large company, but you do not like to speak at meetings. Use the tips above for extroverts and introverts.
Conclusion, or advice for all types of individuals
Don't force yourself into your own personality type. Remember to grow out of your comfort zone. If you are an introvert, try public speaking and chatting with colleagues. It can help you move up the career ladder. It is sometimes useful for extroverts to step aside a little, to observe themselves and colleagues.
The main advice for everyone, whether you are an extrovert, introvert or ambivert, is to learn to compromise and learn to understand yourself.
Anyone is interested in knowing what his psychological type of personality is. Even if he is not interested in psychology at all. For the first time, the concept of psychological types was formulated by Carl Gustav Jung in 1921.
Since then, almost all tests in psychology include the mandatory definition of introversion or extraversion.
Let's take a look at these concepts and determine what type you are.
Who are introverts?
Introversion Is a behavioral type characterized by the orientation of life towards subjective mental content.
That is, all the energy of an introvert is focused on his inner world, and not on the outside.
Such people are not at all bored of being alone with themselves. On the contrary, they feel uncomfortable in a large and noisy company.
Typically, introverts like to spend time reading a book, taking a quiet walk, or with two or three of their closest people. Publicity, vanity and movement are not for them. At the same time, introverts have developed creative abilities. The typical introvert is calm, shy, distant from everyone except close people, plans his actions in advance, loves order in everything and keeps his feelings under strict control.
Who are extroverts?
Extroversion Is a behavioral type characterized by the concentration of interests on external objects.
Extroverts are sociable, emotional, and not afraid to show their feelings in front of others. Most of the time they are fun to be around as they are active and restless.
Moreover, the extrovert enjoys being a leader and solving issues with different people. Live communication is a source of vital energy for them, without which they feel bad. Extroverts are the exact opposite of introverts, which makes them sometimes appear superficial and frivolous. However, this is not always the case. The typical extrovert is outgoing, optimistic, impulsive, has a wide circle of acquaintances and has little control over emotions and feelings.
So, the extrovert prefers the social and practical aspects of life, operations with real external objects, while the introvert prefers immersion in the world of imagination and reflection.
The extrovert is aimed at wasting his own energy and moving it towards the surrounding objects. An introvert, on the contrary: to accumulate energy in his inner world.
Who is smarter: introverts or extroverts?
The question of which of the introverts and extroverts is more intelligent has been raised more than once. However, of course, there is simply no single answer here.
It's just that the brain of both psychological types works differently. But this does not mean at all that an introvert cannot, if necessary, make a public report, and an extrovert cannot spend one day alone in the country.
Test: introvert or extrovert
To understand which psychological type you are, try to thoughtfully and leisurely read the sentences below. One way or another, but one of the two options will be closer to you.
- thinks before saying or doing something;
- does not seek to increase the circle of his communication;
- does not like big companies;
- avoids crowded events and public speaking;
- often answers questions in monosyllables;
- writes messages even when it is easier and faster to call.
- often does first, and then thinks;
- loves acquaintances and constantly makes new contacts;
- is fond of any communication and can easily talk to a stranger;
- regularly goes to various events: parties, concerts, exhibitions, etc .;
- talks at length about what can be expressed in two words;
- prefers to make a call even when it is much easier and more convenient to send one SMS.
With all this, it should be understood that even if you have determined that you are definitely an introvert or extrovert, this does not mean at all that the traits of the opposite type are not inherent in you.
The fact is that most people can exhibit traits of both an introvert and an extrovert under different circumstances.
Those who are in the middle of the introversion-extraversion scale most of the time are called ambiverts (or diaverts).
Ambiverts are not ringleaders, but they can enthusiastically participate in what they like. Their passivity is easily replaced by activity, and vice versa: the soul of the company can become shy and quiet in an instant.
In some conditions, ambiverts chatter incessantly, while in others they become withdrawn and silent. Sometimes they work well as part of a team, and sometimes they prefer to act alone.
Now that you've identified your personality type, learn how to connect with your friends who are highly introverted or extroverted.
If your friend is an introvert :
- Don't expect an instant reaction from an introvert. He needs time to think about the information he has received.
- To draw his attention to something important, write him a letter or message. Then he can thoughtfully read and calmly analyze your words.
- At events, do not pester him with questions: “Why are you constantly silent? You're not interested?". Let him get used to his surroundings.
- Do not invade his personal space and never take the taciturnity and isolation of an introvert personally. This will be a deep delusion.
If your friend is an extrovert:
- Be patient - let the extrovert talk. The more attentively you listen, the sooner you will find a rational kernel in the flow of emotions.
- Don't be offended if he ignores your messages. If necessary, the extrovert should only call. Be sure to ask how he is doing.
- At the event, do not leave the extrovert unattended, but try to channel his energy in a constructive direction.
- To please the extrovert, simply agree to his next adventure. It could be any crazy idea that suddenly came to his head.
Well, friends, now you know who introverts and extroverts are. If you have read the article to the end and you liked it, like it and subscribe to the Psychology for Everyone!
We often use these concepts in relation to ourselves or other people. But do we always understand correctly what they mean. How to determine what type a person belongs to, we will tell you in this article.
Deciphering concepts: introvert, extrovert and ambivert
There are several basic personality characteristics that make each of us unique. Among them are the concepts of introversion and extraversion, which were identified by the famous psychologist G. Jung.
In the accepted classification, there are three types of people: introverts, extroverts, and ambiverts. What characterizes each of the species and what is the difference?
Who is an introvert
Introvert is a person who is turned inward. This type of personality is immersed in their emotions, experiences and reflections.
Introversion is understood as the orientation of a person towards himself. This concept implies the prevalence of the inner world of the individual over the interest in the surrounding reality and other people.
Who is an extrovert
Extrovert - this is a person who directs his interests to the outside world, turns more to other people than to himself. Extroverts are communicative, optimistic people, dependent on communication.
Extroversion is the process of expressing feelings, emotions and thoughts outward. The concept presupposes the orientation of the inner world into objective reality, the outburst of the content of the personality outside.
Who is an ambivertAmbivert
Is a person who combines the qualities of intro- and extraversion. At some moments, a person listens to himself, wants to be alone, to reflect.
Under other circumstances, a person strives for communication, self-expression. In psychology, it is believed that the ambivert is the most stable and stable personality type, since he manages to avoid the extremes inherent in the other two types.
In a pure state, extroverts and introverts are less common. Usually you can only talk about the dominant personality traits.
An introvert is easy enough to recognize in any company. He can sit all evening with a glass of wine and contemplate what is happening around him, thinking about something of his own.
Such people rarely show their emotions, they are reserved and laconic. Introverts come across as calm people, but that's not entirely true. They are not used to splashing out their inner experiences on others. Introverts are more interested in sorting out their experiences alone.
The positive traits of introversion include :
- Independence from the opinions of other people. An introvert's own value system is strong and unshakable. He is confident in his judgments and will not change principles to please others.
- Stable external reactions. You can be sure that in the heat of an argument, an introvert will not splash hot tea in your face.
- Thoughtfulness, perseverance, the ability to take responsibility for oneself. An introvert often reflects, so he knows his strengths and weaknesses, he looks for support within himself, without appealing to others.
Introverts also have their drawbacks that hinder progress towards success. :
- High level of sensitivity and self-criticism. The personality is prone to deep introspection and self-criticism, which adversely affects the psyche.
- Containment of emotions, which can lead to psychosomatics. There are feelings that you cannot keep to yourself.
- Inability to make the necessary acquaintances, weak communication skills. An introvert has a hard time getting along with people, does not know how to ask for help. It is difficult for a person to build social relationships, she is indifferent to the opinions of other people. Negative traits impede career development and adaptation to a changing external environment.
Characteristics of an extrovert
The extrovert strives for publicity, he needs to participate in public events where there is a large crowd of people. Such a person always strives to be the center of attention. At the party, we immediately recognize him: he actively communicates with all the invitees, comes up with contests and fun, pulls the hand to dance.
All the energy of the extrovert goes out, while the introvert is inclined to accumulate it. On the other hand, energy reserves are replenished through active communication with others. An extrovert can be easily calculated by a direct gaze; in dialogue, he always looks into the eyes of the interlocutor.
Among the pluses of extraversion are the following :
- Openness and sociability. The extrovert will tell everything about himself, he will gladly listen to your problems.
- Optimism and good nature. A person is always ready to help, attentive to the needs of loved ones. He is not inclined to condemnation and moralizing.
- Activity, wide range of interests. An extrovert is rarely found on the couch at home. He is directed to the outside world: today - a pool, tomorrow - a cat show.
- A large number of friends and acquaintances, which helps in career advancement and business.
There are also negative aspects. :
- The extrovert literally wastes energy, without the proper return, he may feel emptiness, lack of strength.
- In times of forced loneliness, a person cannot concentrate on himself and falls into despondency. It seems to him that "life is passing by."
- Strong dependence on the opinions of other people.
- Expressed extroverts cannot be and live alone, if fate puts them in such a position, then isolation becomes a problem. A person cannot even fall asleep in an empty apartment.
Sometimes extroverts come across as superficial and frivolous people, incapable of introspection, which is not always true. An extrovert with a healthy psyche is quite capable of studying and correcting his strengths and weaknesses.
Ambiversion presupposes the combination in the personality of the two types described above. Depending on the circumstances, a person is a bearer of an extrovert or introvert.
Ambivert can easily join any group of society, if necessary. However, the assertiveness and obsession inherent in an extrovert will not show. A person listens to the emotions of others, tries not to offend, which distinguishes him from an introvert who is immersed only in his own experiences.
The ambivert personality is open to communication, but he also knows how to listen without interrupting or making comments. Therefore, the ambivert has many acquaintances and has established long-term interpersonal contacts.
Ambivert can work with equal ease both independently and in a team. For an extrovert, hard monotonous work is always a burden, it is more important for him to participate in a common cause. An introvert, on the other hand, prefers to work alone, when no one distracts from the process.
These people are very flexible and adaptable. They subconsciously understand when to be active and when to be silent. They always try to find a way out of difficult stories, not splashing out emotions like extroverts, but also not closing in on themselves like introverts.
How to know who I am - introvert, extrovert or ambivert
To understand what type of personality you belong to, we suggest that you familiarize yourself with the characteristic features of each of them in a concentrated form.
|Personality type||Dominant signs|
|Introvert||Does not seek to get into noisy companies and public events. It is hard and long going through failures and failures. He speaks little and listens a lot. Lives in the world of his fantasies. Restrains emotions. Likes to philosophize. He is attached forever, knows how to remain faithful. Has patience. Meticulous, observant, focuses on details.|
|Extrovert||Strives to make new acquaintances. Easy-going, sociable, talkative, emotional. Everything inside instantly spills out. He exposes himself, dreams of being in the center of attention, does not tolerate loneliness, focuses on the opinions of others.|
|Ambivert||He understands the mood of other people well, is intuitive. Equally stable psychologically in loneliness and in a company. The choice is always made based on his own feelings. Knows how to adapt to external conditions. Depending on the situation, he becomes a participant or an observer, expresses emotions in adequate doses, does not keep them in himself, but does not hysterical either.|
If you still have doubts about your affiliation, we suggest taking a short test.
Answer the questions only "yes" or "no" to the following questions and statements :
- Do you need new places or people to be happy?
- Do you easily abandon your original plans?
- Do you need the support of loved ones to make a decision?
- Do you often give way to arousal mood decline?
- You do it first, and then you think?
- Can you argue with excitement on anything?
- Do you like talking about yourself and your emotions?
- You do not know what melancholy and melancholy are.
- Do you get to know the opposite sex without false modesty?
- You are not worried about what you might have said or done inappropriately.
- You do not return your thoughts to this or that case, if it has already been done?
- You prefer not to dream, but to act.
- In the choice between reading a book and partying, you will prefer the party.
- Are you like a fish in water in a big company?
- Do you like it when people are looking at you?
- You don't know the feeling of guilt and remorse.
- You can't stand monotonous routine activities.
- You love gatherings where people make fun of each other.
- You talk a lot and enjoy it.
- Your sleep is deep, no thoughts can interrupt it.
We start counting the results. If you answered yes to 10 or more questions, then your type is "extrovert". The more answers “yes”, the more pronounced in the personality the typical characteristics of an extrovert. Think, shouldn't you learn to understand yourself and listen to your inner voice?
If there are less than 10 positive statements, you are an "introvert". The number of your "yes" goes to zero? Then introversion can be a problem. Ask a close friend to describe you from the outside. Most likely you have a frowning look and drooping shoulders.
If the answers "yes" and "no" are approximately equal, congratulations, you are an ambiverted person. This is the most stable type that achieves the most success.
How an introvert can change his personality and become an extrovert
First, you should answer the question: "Do I need to become an extrovert?" After all, the opposite type has many disadvantages, which we mentioned. If a person is comfortable with an introverted existence, then nothing is worth changing.
When introversion has become a problem and a person is literally locked in their experiences, you can work out the skills of an extrovert. It is problematic to do this on your own, since changing the types is subject to correction with great difficulty. It is better to consult a psychologist.
You can help yourself by starting to listen more to what other people have to say. Try to overcome the desire to delve into yourself, look at the world around you, notice everything that is interesting and useful in it.
Do not hide emotions, express them outside. Angry - show it, overjoyed - dance or sing. Discuss your feelings with people. Do not be afraid to appear from the bad side. By and large, we are all alike and experience the same emotions.
Go public, attend public events. Do not hesitate to meet people, communicate more. Come to the exhibition - discuss new paintings with a random visitor, work out in the gym - ask your neighbor how he achieved such outstanding results.
Over time, extroverted skills will become a habit, and you will not feel embarrassed or displeased with communication.
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Hello dear readers. We are all different, each of us has his own type of temperament and character, so these features should be taken into account when communicating with other people. The character of a person determines his success in certain aspects of life, as well as his focus on solving relevant issues. Some people are quite difficult to find an approach, while others themselves strive to acquire a mass of friends. Why is this happening? It's all about the psychological type of personality, which we cannot choose at birth or change throughout life. No matter how we try to turn an introvert into an extrovert, nothing will come of it. In general, it is impossible to remake a person, even if he himself tries to change. We just have to find an approach to each of the types, even to the most difficult - an introvert, to whom you cannot approach, no matter how you try.
And extroverts should not be perceived as intrusive self-confident people. Try to understand their behavior and the principle of thinking, and then communication will be a pleasure for both interlocutors.
Most often, conflicts occur precisely between different types of individuals who cannot understand each other in any way. Therefore, it is important to understand: introvert and extrovert - who are they?
Introvert - who is this? Characteristics of women and men
Introvert - this is a person who lives in his own world, access to which is closed to the people around him. He is closed in himself and does not need communication, because for him the best pastime is to do something alone. His outlook on life seems completely incomprehensible to other people.
Such a person does not need socialization, therefore, most often his behavior is incomprehensible to other people, which is why he is considered an inferior or even depressed person.
Although in fact, he may be the funniest person in the world, whose social circle is simply somewhat limited. He may have one best friend with whom he will feel comfortable.
Communication with an introvert will be interesting only for a person like him. An extrovert will never understand an introvert, because the former will always need to communicate with new people and strive to become the soul of the company.
An introvert does not need all this; an interesting book and a calm atmosphere in the house will be enough for him. Often, the behavior of an introvert will differ from gender.
Usually, most of the fairer sex are distinguished by their talkativeness and emotionality. But for a "pure" introvert, silence will be characteristic, due to some isolation in oneself. She is indifferent to the world around her, which is why it is very difficult to surprise her with something.
Often a woman is an introvert immersed in herself, so peace and quiet are important for her. Noisy companies are not for her, because she does not see the point in this, since she has much more important things to do.
Such a woman spends time alone, because she has too many reasons to think.
More precisely, an introvert woman can be characterized as follows:
✔ Interest in learning and striving for self-development. She is the best in the class, often an excellent student.
✔ A small social circle, but a deep enough inner world, as for your age.
✔ A passion for reading, for which she spends all her free time. Such a girl loves fiction, which shapes her inner world.
✔ Careful decision making, which makes it slow. She thinks several steps ahead, calculating possible mistakes.
✔ Secrecy in her feelings, she never shows what is in her soul.
✔ A limited social circle, which is made up of "proven" people She does not forgive betrayal.
If for a woman silence and secrecy seem unusual, and sometimes even strange, then a man is only painted with these qualities.
They form a strong personality that is capable of achieving any goal. Introverted women are too pessimistic to set and achieve serious goals.
Such a man thinks soberly, which helps him to achieve success. He is not used to scattering empty words, because action for him is the best substitute for words.
Let him be in thought most of the time, but their result will necessarily be actions.
Among other things, it can be characterized as follows:
✔ Shows persistence in solving any issues. Differs in perseverance and patience.
✔ Avoids conflict by any means. His kindness helps him achieve this goal.
✔ Shows respect in dealing with people older than him. Also polite and courteous with female representatives.
✔ He loves his family and is ready to do everything to improve their lives.
✔ Differs in loyalty and honesty in relations with his soul mate.
✔ Indifferent to a hectic life, because he knows how to appreciate every moment.
A more detailed classification of introversion
You cannot fit everyone under one size fits all, because each person has his own characteristics that affect the formation of his character.
So, introverts are divided into several more types, which will help you find the right approach to each of them.
The division into types depends on the spiritual and social orientation of the introvert. Thus, we will have at least the slightest idea of what is really going on in the head of an introvert.
Such a person is distinguished by his love for any type of creativity. They rely mainly on their intuition, which greatly helps them in solving many life problems.
Intuition is able to warn of danger, which means, to protect the introvert from problems that may arise.
Of course, it is extremely difficult to communicate with such people because of their ability to feel you as a person. At the first meeting, they can tell everything they think about you, including your not the best qualities. But you can learn a lot from them, which will definitely not be superfluous for you.
Of course, women have a fairly well developed intuition, which cannot be said about logic. In general, a woman is more inherent in the character of an extrovert, therefore, this type is inherent in men.
Such a young man is passionate about science and creativity, while he always achieves his goals in a particular area.
In terms of communication, some problems may arise, because he is rather closed and deeply passionate about the work of his life, which is why people around him may not understand him.
The man who finds his destiny in his youth will reach unprecedented heights.
This type is also peculiar to men. A cold mind and an analytical mindset, even in the early years, develops a certain system, adhering to which, he achieves his goals. Thus, a man becomes successful early enough.
He is smart enough, so he can communicate with other people on completely different topics. But he is so passionate about any business that the women around him are not at all interested in him. Basically, such people live their lives alone, but with their favorite work.
But this type just characterizes the majority of women. She lives only one day, and does not think about the future at all. She is completely ruled by emotions that overshadow the mind, so she is often impulsive.
Despite the fact that such a woman is an introvert, she is not afraid of communicating with new people, so she is ready to communicate on any topic. She commits rash acts, which is why she herself suffers later.
Not all types obey the general traits of introverts. As we can see, some of them can be sociable, and even act somewhat impulsively. In this they are a bit like extroverts, which we will now talk about.
Extrovert - who is this? Characteristics of women and men
Many people consider extroverts too frivolous and impulsive, which means they are completely frivolous.
But what about the fact that it is extroverts who are much more successful than introverts? After all, communication is the key to any relationship, both personal and business. And this is precisely the element of extroverts.
They do not like planning, because it leads them astray. It is spontaneous actions that lead them to success.
Extroverts may seem somewhat superficial, but this does not mean that their inner world is not rich. It may seem that such a person in life is so good that he does not worry about anything and does not think. The fact is that beyond the sociability and friendliness of extroverts, people simply do not notice anything else.
Perhaps they rarely delve into themselves, but they are also worried about many things happening around. They just are not used to experiencing all this alone, at the first opportunity they will tell the whole world about their feelings.
The main advantage of extroverts is their directness, which leaves no secrets or understatements behind. They are used to talking directly about even the most unpleasant things.
Many regard this as a kind of arrogance, but these people are not used to being hypocritical, and therefore they speak the truth, whatever it may be.
In general, most girls are extroverts. They are not only overly sociable, but also emotional, which is why very often emotions take over the mind. Despite all this, they are quite purposeful, which helps them to achieve heights.
Such a woman is open to the whole world, she is not used to being silent about her problems, which means that she will definitely share them with everyone.
Among other things, such an extrovert woman has the following qualities:
✔ Directness is perceived by people as long as it does not go beyond all boundaries of decency. Indeed, on emotions, a woman is able to say a lot of unnecessary things.
✔ Optimism helps to cope with any difficulties, so that a bad mood will not become an obstacle on the way to the goal.
✔ Energy. Such girls charge others with their energy, and they themselves are able to do a lot of things in one day.
✔ Openness to people helps to find many important acquaintances, and in general, to find good friends.
Among men, extroverts are not as common as introverts, but they are still worth paying attention to. They are quite ambitious, and their sociability greatly helps them in achieving certain goals.
There are too many such a man, because he cares about everything. He wants to participate in everything, even that which does not concern him.
In addition, he tells everyone about his achievements and plans, which is often mistaken for bragging.
But besides this, an extrovert man has the following qualities:
✔ Reasonableness in this case will refer to positive qualities, because it helps him achieve success.
✔ Sociability, turning into obsession, is also aimed at satisfying one's own needs.
✔ Persistence does not allow him to deviate from the set goal, and optimism will not allow him to give up.
Types of extroversion
This type is characterized by rather unbalanced extroverts who are prone to panic attacks. These people are completely controlled by their emotions, so communicating with them can be extremely difficult.
Their intuition usually works well for anticipating something bad. That is, they understand that everything can end badly, which is a prerequisite for the emergence of a panic state.
Such people always achieve their goals, moreover, they have an entrepreneurial streak that will be just the right thing in any endeavors. Their intuition just helps to find "the very" right direction in any business.
Optimism helps such a person not to give up, and in any situation to see only the pros. His directness, of course, can offend the people around him, but he does not seek to offend anyone.
Such a person feels the level of strength of the people around him. He knows the weaknesses of each of his acquaintances, and when he needs it, he will not miss the opportunity to put pressure on their sore spots.
He always tries to draw attention to himself in every possible way. Manipulates people when necessary, which allows him to get even closer to success.
Each psychological type has its own pros and cons, so you cannot single out any one.
It is only important to note that no life difficulties can turn an extrovert into an introvert, or vice versa.
Even if an introvert starts making new acquaintances, sooner or later he will abandon them, due to his character. Now you will know who an introvert is and who an extrovert is. .So your communication with a person whose psychological type is the opposite of yours will be easy and unobtrusive.